Aryan, your handwriting tells me that you often make efforts to make real friends. You are readily available for people you like. You are always in search of a friend who understands you and your point of view and knows exactly what you ideas and philosophies are.

For you, Aryan, it's extremely important that your friends never mistake you and understand you completely. You always look for someone who accepts you the way you are. For you, acceptance is what matters because disagreements on any issue upsets you.

When you are working in a group, you sometimes feel that a few members of the team are talking behind your back and screwing up your prospects. Let me tell you, Aryan, your handwriting shows that most of these fears exist just in your imagination. To a great extent, this attitude is the reason you keep aloof. You feel if you let anyone come close, they will hurt you emotionally because you take all comments to your heart.

People dealing with you at a personal level have to very cautious what they say because one wrong word and without them knowing, you will distance yourself from them. If a friend says anything against you or your ideas and opinions, you quickly conclude that he is from the “other camp” and you begin to distrust him. And you do that very secretly. You don’t tell anyone about your dislike. The interesting part is that though you do not like the criticism, you don't say much on the spot. In fact, you carry them and keep replaying the words in your mind. In short, you take comments personally.

Few things hurt you as much as criticisms, especially when they come from a close person. They leave you in enormous pain. You also hear yourself saying, “I don’t care what others say about me. I give a damn”. But you know, Aryan, that the truth is you are really bothered about what people say. And if the comments are negative, they stay in your mind for the next few days. But you forget it soon because you don't remember things for very long time.

You also have intellectual sensitivity. You take it personally when anybody opposes your ideas and philosophy without first praising yours. Your need for perfection is largely driven by a desire to avoid criticism. You indeed tire yourself considerably just to achieve the perfection. You are often filled with self-doubt about your capabilities. You underestimate yourself.

Aryan, tell me something: Aren’t you too concerned about the way you look? Don’t you stop wearing a particular dress just because someone said it once that it did not look good on you? One more thing: As a child you were subjected to unwarranted criticism and humiliation by close people.

You have brought in a good amount of discipline in you life. It helps you carry through your days according to your plan. You have a very healthy imagination and you love variety in life. Yea, that goes for lifestyle, job and bedroom too. One thing you hate is sitting for long hours.

Your graphotherapy exercise aimed at eliminating your sensitivity will reach you very soon via email.

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Aryan's comment:

[10 March 2009 11:42AM]

amazing.... man, it's unbelivable.
hats off to you sir.........
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