Sorry, Miss Emotion, I am surely not in love with you

Handwriting pressure analysis is a key part of handwriting analysis. It shows how emotional a person is. For example, a heavy pressure handwriting shows that the writer has enduring emotions. Find out more

Tears are pearls. No wonder they sell well — most of the time. Ask TV soap queen Ekta Kapoor; she knows. Evidently, many buy tears (teary stories). Many ignore them. Some drops are genuine, some fake. A lot of people shed tears to feel lighter; a great many misuse them to arm-twist others into meeting selfish ends. Some say tears are soul’s shower, others argue they reflect lack of power. Some let them flow when they are in pain; many withhold because they think it’s a shame.

Clearly, the world is split over tears. Both views are “valid”, no doubt, and there are plenty of arguments to cushion each of them. Hence, it would be foolish and anserine to take sides and decide which of the two is “more precise” and “logical”. For the moment, we can all agree that the value of this salt-water solution depends on situations.

For example, its acceptability in public is utmost only in utter grief or extreme happiness. Any exception to this makes tears attract dyslogistic adjectives such as “ridiculous”, “sissy”, “silly”, “effeminate” and the worst of them all and most casual one is “woman-like”.

In short, there is an overriding tendency to disparage emotional behaviour and look down upon tears because they “show the individual’s weakness” and very few want to be associated with the frail and feeble.

Inveterate lamenters don’t care; they give a damn about the dam between the tears and the world outside. Just about any loss — real or imaginative — makes them breach the barrier at any hour of the day, in any situation of life, for anything whatsoever. No holds barred. We all know these patients of ocular diarrhoea and find it strenuous to value them or their grief exhibited by tears.

Emotional control in handwriting analysis

In handwriting analysis, such writers, who lack emotional control, are identified by a certain extremity in the right slant coupled with a bouncy baseline (picture A). There are many exceptions to these indicators and we’ll talk about these emotional freaks in detail some other time.

Picture A: Right slant with bouncy baseline

Here, we’ll talk about the other extreme; about those who don’t sell tears. Yes, the same person who sits in the corner and seldom shouts, scarcely screams, rarely reacts, keeps cool, looks detached and appears unperturbed.

How stoic people write

All of us know a few such people in our lives. They look inviolable and strong. How well do you think you know such people? How do they deal with their emotional pain if they never let the pearls roll down their cheeks? Mind you, they don’t even share their grief with others. Is it possible that they have secret tears that nobody knows about? Is it likely that they never reveal even to their “best” friends that they cry clandestinely even when something “very minor” upsets them? Do they always put up a brave front in the face of losses or hurt while all they want to do is to break down and cry?

I don't feel the need to share my feelings with anyone

Well, the answers to these questions perhaps shape some secret realities of their well-guarded private lives that might be identical to those of many of us. One of the realities is that no matter what others’ views are on tears, many such “strong” people do let their tears flow when they want to and make sure nobody knows about it — maybe just to deflect derision.

On my way back home from office every night by local train, I often choose to stand at the gate because the compartments are not crowded at that hour of the day and it’s a delight braving the gush of wind.

One day last week when I was going home, I stood at the gate, looking aimlessly at things that whizzed past in the darkness outside. Suddenly, I was startled by a few drops that scurried down my cheeks. Thankfully, nothing dries faster than tears. I was relieved. I looked around. Nobody had noticed the freedom-seeking drops. It happened to me a few times that week. The reason behind the pain that triggered those tears is personal. And nobody except me knows that. I don’t feel the need to share it.

Anyway… let’s not concentrate on me or my pain. I’m not so important. The point I am trying to make here is that some people, especially men, have a tendency to desist from displaying emotions.

In interpersonal relationships, they are written off as unemotional people who “don’t understand emotions and have no feelings”. By the way, I see your mind is still trying to guess what happened to me in the train that night. Do you expect me to talk about it? Buzz off! I’m not telling you. Let’s move ahead now.

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