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At an office party in June 2008, all of a sudden I found myself sounding saintly as I muttered in anger: \u201cWhy do people drink so much when they can\u2019t handle liquor?\u201d<\/p>\n

I made the statement because I saw one of my colleagues was obediently returning to Mother Earth probably a few pegs more than she had consumed that night.<\/p>\n

Not her fault, I guess. The party was remarkable, the drinks\u2026irresistible, the ambience\u2026delectable and the atmosphere\u2026unpredictable.<\/p>\n

Like most others at the party, she thoroughly enjoyed the bash, the vomiting notwithstanding. Who cares if the end was a fine blend of sickness and bliss?<\/p>\n

Even I did not on two occasions I had found myself in the same situation \u2013 one was about three years ago in Calcutta, and the second, a year later in Mumbai.<\/p>\n

During the one-hour train journey on my way back home that night, I allowed my thoughts to drift away and recall what had happened on that party night in November 2005 in Calcutta when I was sloshed for the first time in my life.<\/p>\n

How I got drunk that day was simple: I was too thirsty before reaching the office party venue and I began drinking rum like water (First-timers\u2019 goof-up, you see). And I don\u2019t remember when exactly the liquor hit me so badly.<\/p>\n

It was funny. Much to the consternation and shock of others, I had snatched the microphone from the DJ\u2019s hand and had begun to sing an odd song. I think it was a ghazal! Everybody had started booing me.<\/p>\n

Thoroughly embarrassed, I gave the mike back and then let myself loose on the dance floor, scarcely knowing which way I swung. I shook hips almost with everyone. It was a complete disaster. In comparison, the young lady at the party last week was an apostle of elegance and poise.<\/p>\n

The morning after my Calcutta party was horrifying: it was the first hangover of my life and I puked, puked and just puked. Somehow I had managed to reach the\u00a0office.<\/p>\n

No more flashback. Circa 2008. When I came to office the following day, people were tattling about the party and comfortably swimming in who-did-what chats.<\/p>\n

One of the colleagues then told me about a man whose behaviour after getting drunk was shockingly different from his normal conduct. \u201cSome people, who are normally reserved and introverted, become outgoing under the influence of liquor?\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s true that after a few pegs, many quiet, aloof, silent, reticent, distant, uncommunicative people transform into garrulous and gregarious bums. I know some of them and I am sure you are also acquainted with a few such people.<\/p>\n

Let me help you identify such people: more often than not, you will hear them say: \u201cAfter a few drinks, I feel more open and relaxed. Liquor does so much good to me!\u201d<\/p>\n

Have you ever attempted to find out how why such individuals behave so differently when they are high?<\/p>\n

According to psychology, they are self-conscious people who feel they are being watched by others all the time. From the moment such a person enters a public gathering or party, she or he feels that everybody is looking only at them.<\/p>\n

They find extreme difficulty in getting over this feeling of being observed.\u00a0As a result, the behaviour of such people is always calibrated and modulated under normal circumstances.<\/p>\n

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But as soon as they are under the influence of intoxicants, which temporarily suspends their self-consciousness, they behave like an unshackled animal; they feel free to do and say what they actually like, and not what will be liked by others.<\/p>\n

In handwriting analysis<\/a>, self-consciousness is seen in the rising humps of lower case \u2018m\u2019 and \u2018n\u2019 (see the picture below).<\/p>\n

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American graphologist Bart Baggett says:<\/p>\n

When one is feeling self-conscious, one becomes aware of even the smallest of one\u2019s own actions. Such awareness can impair one\u2019s ability to perform complex actions. For example, a piano player may choke, lose confidence, and even lose the ability to perform the moment they notice the audience. As self-consciousness fades, one may regain the ability to \u2018lose one\u2019s self\u2019. A person especially prone to self-consciousness may be labelled shy or introverted\u2026\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Okay, but not all self-conscious people who are quiet, introverted and focused (shown partially by the small size of handwriting) explode after drinking. Here, we are talking about the self-conscious people who attempt to snap all self-restricting strings under the influence of liquor.<\/p>\n

Therefore, the presence of rising humps in \u2018m\u2019 and \u2018n\u2019 alone in an individual\u2019s writing are not sufficient for a graphologist to conclude that a writer will go berserk after getting drunk. The handwriting should have other strokes and a particular style.<\/p>\n

Besides the rising humps, such an individual\u2019s handwriting may some strokes reflecting the desire for attention \u2014 shown by three things in handwriting analysis.<\/p>\n

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First, a signature much larger in size in comparison to the rest of the writing; second, circles in place of i and j dots (see picture B); and finally an exaggerated upswing in the ending stroke (see picture C).<\/p>\n

Despite secretly nurturing desires to be outgoing, friendly and chatty, writers who are self-conscious desist from doing what they like, because their principal fear is: What will others say? What will they think?<\/p>\n

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Handwriting analysts say the other possible reason why an individual does not do what he or she likes is lack of confidence and self-worth (often indicated by the low placement of t-bars as seen in picture D).<\/p>\n

An individual who thinks low of himself will think that people might not like what he or she does. For instance, a study says many men and women in the West desist from hitting the dance floor because they don\u2019t like their physique.<\/p>\n

If any of you reading this feels restricted by such baseless fears, try writing with descending hump and higher t-bars for a few weeks. I am confident you will feel much better.<\/p>\n

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