{"id":421,"date":"2016-05-12T11:15:11","date_gmt":"2016-05-12T05:45:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/writechoice.wordpress.com\/?p=421"},"modified":"2024-02-25T12:09:08","modified_gmt":"2024-02-25T06:39:08","slug":"handwriting-abusive-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.writechoice.co.in\/writechoice\/handwriting-abusive-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Is He a Loving Boyfriend or a Very Dangerous Boy-fiend? Find Out from His Handwriting"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Abusive relationship and handwriting<\/h4>\n

Some statements are like bad cold and cough. Almost everyone gets it or gives it. One such gem is often heard during break-ups: \u201cYou\u2019ll never find anyone like me again!\u201d<\/p>\n

When someone said this to me once upon a time, I wondered, \u201cMy goodness! I should hope not! If I don\u2019t want you, why would I want someone like<\/em> you?\u201d<\/p>\n

Recently, a close friend decided to move on after her search for fulfilment in a romantic relationship hit a dead end. She ignored his cough \u2019n\u2019 cold and married a fine gentleman last year.<\/p>\n

She has turned out to be a terrific wife: she is a loving and caring woman who always forgives her husband when she\u2019s<\/em> wrong. They make a lovely couple and I\u2019m happy for them.<\/p>\n

A few months before getting married, Cynthia (That’s what I’ll call her) spoke to me about her ex-boyfriend. I\u2019ll share it with you in brief.<\/p>\n

For her studies, Cynthia had gone to London for a few years. During her stay in the UK, she met Sid with whom she went steady for a few months.<\/p>\n

Things didn\u2019t go well between them and as they went along, Cynthia realised Sid was not the right guy for her.<\/p>\n

Soon, they parted with mutual understanding and later she returned to India.<\/p>\n

For a few months, there was no news of him. They had moved on, and Cynthia was now committed to Samar with plans for future.<\/p>\n

But just when she thought everything was going fine, Sid resurfaced. He started making efforts to reconnect with Cynthia.<\/p>\n

She politely rejected his overtures. But he began badgering her with calls, emails and text messages. Cynthia was adamant, she refused to give way.<\/p>\n

Gradually, Sid became belligerent and stroppy.<\/p>\n

On a couple of occasions he even flew down to India to persuade her into making a comeback.<\/p>\n

His mindless doggedness and tenacity troubled Cynthia, but she had made up her mind to resist his foolhardiness and had no plans to restart an abusive relationship.<\/p>\n

However, the uncertainty that surrounded the whole thing and Sid’s misdirected motives sometimes rattled her.<\/p>\n

Cynthia discussed at length the entire story with me over chat and told me she was not sure what to do.<\/p>\n

\u201cI am a little worried. I don\u2019t know what Sid is going to do. We broke up because it wasn\u2019t going anywhere. And now, he\u2019s pestering me and persecuting me,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n

Cynthia was right. \u201cA relationship,\u201d Woody Allen once said, \u201cis like a shark. It has to constantly move forward or it dies. And I think what we (most of us) got on our hands is a dead shark.\u201d<\/p>\n

Clearly, Cynthia wanted a sprightly and spry shark.<\/p>\n

She instantly emailed me Sid\u2019s handwriting on a greeting card he had presented to her in the UK.<\/p>\n

As I saw his handwriting unfold slowly on the screen of my laptop, the first word that zipped through my lips was: \u201cHell, no!\u201d.<\/p>\n

I told her straight away that under no circumstances should she have anything to do with that man. He was sure a danger.<\/p>\n

\"Sid's<\/a>

Abusive relationship<\/p><\/div>\n

As I analysed Sid\u2019s handwriting, I discovered that he suffered from the out-of-the-sight-out-of-the-mind syndrome.<\/p>\n

It meant that mentally he was with Cynthia as long as she was in front of him. But the moment she was physically absent, he would hit on other women.<\/p>\n

I told Cynthia that this man had some serious conflict with women because of his awful relationship with his mother.<\/p>\n

Cynthia then told me that indeed he was not at all on good terms with his mother and he hated her.<\/p>\n

Now, click on Sid\u2019s handwriting sample to enlarge it and look carefully at the sharp hooks in the lower zone letters y\u2019s and g\u2019s.<\/p>\n

According to graphology<\/a>, the claw-like formation in the two letters are really ominous and if you see it in the handwriting of your lovers, please be careful. Such claws are often found in the handwriting of criminals.<\/p>\n

Handwriting analysis<\/a> says these hook-like formations are dangerous because they show up in that zone of the handwriting which reflects the writer\u2019s relationship with his romantic partners, his professional health and his physical life. They are heart-breakers.<\/p>\n

When I told Cynthia that this person can be physically abusive and violent, she said she had heard him talk about getting murderous if he did not get what he wanted.<\/p>\n

The muddiness in the strokes, caused by the irregular flow of ink because of an unstable pressure of writing, is indicative of his unsound mind.<\/p>\n

\"abusive<\/a><\/p>\n

Such a writer can never think of his partner with respect and would rather look at her as an object of sexual gratification. During intercourse too, such writers can be violent with their partners.<\/p>\n

My conclusion about Sid is based not only on the hooks appearing in the two letters.<\/p>\n

I also spotted many things including muddiness, certain thickness of strokes and pointed endings of all the hooks. If I see such strokes in the handwriting of a woman on my first date, I\u2019d get up to find the nearest exit.<\/p>\n

About such hook formations, famous graphologist Andrea McNichol says:<\/p>\n

The claw means\u2026 bitterness and bad instincts. He will seem to be the nicest person on the earth. No one would suspect this person of having an evil bone in his body. But then, he is setting you up only to stab you in the back; he will end up clawing you\u2026. This is most frightening because you don\u2019t know the knife is coming. The claw appears frequently in the lower zones of rapists. That does not mean that all people with such claws are rapists\u2026\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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