{"id":504,"date":"2008-10-27T15:42:08","date_gmt":"2008-10-27T10:12:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/writechoice.wordpress.com\/?p=504"},"modified":"2024-02-25T12:45:37","modified_gmt":"2024-02-25T07:15:37","slug":"handwriting-loops-in-letter-d","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.writechoice.co.in\/writechoice\/handwriting-loops-in-letter-d\/","title":{"rendered":"1 Handwriting Change can Stop You from Worrying about What People Think of You"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Sensitivity to criticism<\/h4>\n

I do not know this lady in the picture above. But I believe we\u2019ll get along well because we probably think alike. I say that because looking at her gesture, I think we share our fondness for lady\u2019s finger (okra). I love okra fries.<\/p>\n

I think the woman is probably invalid and through the gesture, she is imploring her husband to go the market and buy the vegetable, ensuring that none of them are smaller than her middle finger.\u00a0Right?<\/p>\n

Maybe no.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure the protectors and guardians of obscene gestures are going to look down upon me with utmost disdain and derision for having misinterpreted the woman’s indication of intent.<\/p>\n

According to them, even an infant can understand that the lady in question is not at all referring to anything edible; she is probably showing her long finger to her loathsome, hateful, obnoxious and abusive boss.<\/p>\n

So, Guardian Angels, please attribute this daft interpretation of the term to my na\u00efvet\u00e9 and pardon me. If you read what follows in subsequent paragraphs, I promise you\u2019ll see that I am looking at the upright gesture in a slightly different way.<\/p>\n

Many of us must have used this gesture several times. The sign is used mostly to exhibit emotions such as resentment, anger, antagonism, bitterness, hatred, disgust and irritability.<\/p>\n

But I haven\u2019t chosen this gesture on Write Choice to discuss any of these emotions: I\u2019ll use it here to illustrate what I call \u201cI-don\u2019t-give-a-damn attitude\u201d.<\/p>\n

Dealing with non-constructive criticism<\/h4>\n

For many people, the term, I-give-it-a-damn, borders \u201cdefiance, disobedience, insolence and insubordination\u201d. But minus all the negativity implied in the four words within quotes, does the term become insignificant?<\/p>\n

In my opinion, it does not. What remains of the term, after we carefully sieve out all the negativity, is the subject of discussion here.<\/p>\n

Let me explain:<\/p>\n

We\u2019re not talking here about people who are defiant, disobedient, insolent and insubordinate.<\/p>\n

We\u2019re referring to people who use the term to brush aside\u00a0non-constructive\u00a0criticism and laugh off mindless remarks tossed at them \u2014 wittingly or unwittingly. We\u2019re talking about the attitude that protects the ego from being bruised by stray statements or opinions.<\/p>\n

The point is that if we don\u2019t disregard and discount all disapproval and disparagement, we\u2019ll impair our productivity and surely deteriorate our efficiency.<\/p>\n

For example, many students desist from asking questions in the classroom because they dread being snubbed by the teacher and thereafter \u201cbecoming a butt of joke\u201d among classmates.<\/p>\n

But the fact is that they become a “butt of a joke” only in their imagination. Psychologists trace the root of such fears among children to mortifying incidents in the past, which caused inhibitions or engendered shyness.<\/p>\n

Replaying negative comments in mind<\/h4>\n

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Not just children, even adults are plagued by similar fears. Meet Ms Sandhya. She\u2019s one of them.<\/p>\n

Sandhya is an accomplished worker. But when her colleague, Amit, make any \u201cnegative\u201d remark on her work, style of functioning, behaviour or her dress for that matter, she loses sleep and becomes resentful towards him.<\/p>\n

When she goes home, she replays Amit\u2019s words over and over again in her mind, takes all the criticism personally, produces plenty of rancour and plans to \u201cgive it back\u201d to him.<\/p>\n

In the next few weeks, she might even “give it back to him”, but it’s unlikely that she will cease to experience pain caused by identical problems in the future. Because last week it was Amit, next week it could be Sumit, and the week after that, it may be Sujit.<\/p>\n

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Wide loop in letter ‘d’<\/p><\/div>\n

I am not a sage passing value judgements on people or telling them what they should do. But I believe a change in attitude will definitely help Ms Super Sensitive Sandhya.<\/p>\n

I ask you: won\u2019t it be a good for her to not lose her sleep and ignore the colleague\u2019s comments?<\/p>\n

In other words, will it be bad if she sticks her middle finger (preferably in her mind)\u00a0 and tells herself: I don\u2019t give a damn about what Amit says?<\/p>\n

In handwriting analysis, a single stroke or a combination of strokes reflects an individual\u2019s super sensitivity.<\/p>\n

\"\"But in most cases, the trait is seen primarily in the loops in lower case t\u2019s and d\u2019s. And we can change this self-tormenting attitude by bringing about a few minor changes in handwriting.<\/p>\n

If you are super sensitive, using disciplined graphotherapy<\/a>, take these loops out of the two letters. You\u2019ll feel better.<\/p>\n

The exercise will help you understand that it\u2019s a waste of time trying to control what others say; it\u2019s easier to regulate how you choose to take the comments. You’ll also stop getting bothered by non-constructive criticisms.<\/p>\n

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