{"id":51,"date":"2019-08-20T00:40:01","date_gmt":"2019-08-19T19:10:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/writechoice.wordpress.com\/?p=51"},"modified":"2020-08-24T18:09:53","modified_gmt":"2020-08-24T12:39:53","slug":"fear-of-intimacy-handwriting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.writechoice.co.in\/writechoice\/fear-of-intimacy-handwriting\/","title":{"rendered":"If Your Ladylove Stood You Up, Look for Fear of Intimacy in Her Handwriting"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I have the fear of intimacy. So, let me play with your heart a bit…<\/p><\/div>\n

It\u2019s often said that when a young man complains that a young lady has no heart, it\u2019s pretty certain she has his. Raj realised the same about his friend George when we met last week.<\/p>\n

\u201cRohini is heartless,\u201d George said in a deep voice about the girl he liked.<\/p>\n

Raj instantly manufactured seriousness on his face to get my stoic friend to decongest his heart.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s been a month since I\u2019ve been asking her out. I sent her SMSes and also messages through a common friend. But she doesn\u2019t reply. I communicated to her that if she says no, I\u2019ll never bother her. But she just keeps quiet. The other day when I called her up, she agreed to meet, but didn\u2019t turn up on time. I don\u2019t know if I should move on, because she hasn\u2019t yet turned me down\u2026.\u201d<\/p>\n

Romantic proposals usually meet with a yes or a no, but George was terribly upset because he got neither. His annoyance was awful because he hated to wait endlessly, shown by his angular handwriting with right slant.<\/p>\n

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Angular handwriting with right slant<\/p><\/div>\n

One might wonder why Rohini was not giving him a clear answer to his proposal. I guessed three possible reasons:<\/p>\n

First, she\u2019s waiting for Sun and Moon to marry and go on honeymoon; second, Sherlock Holmes\u2019s grandson whom she has hired to find if George is a paedophile or a psycho is yet to submit his report; and third, she may have what handwriting analysts call the fear of intimacy.<\/p>\n

Fear of intimacy<\/h3>\n

Several factors in a handwriting sample reflect one\u2019s fear of intimacy, such as wide word spacing, a certain left slant, print writing and more importantly, the lack-of-trust \u2018y\u2019.<\/p>\n

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Narrow lower loops indicate the writer’s fear of intimacy<\/p><\/div>\n

The thin loop in the letter indicates less mental investment in relationships. Usually someone who writes y\u2019s like this is disinclined to let people inside her heart possibly because she just got out of a bad relationship.<\/p>\n

According to handwriting analysis<\/a>, if this stroke coexists with light pressure and lack of margins, the writer feels no need to get involved in relationships and has no time for others.<\/p>\n

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Raj didn\u2019t know if Rohini dreaded intimacy or was too busy to reply, but he told George not to be judgmental about her because he didn\u2019t know whether she had genuine reasons to remain unresponsive.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible that her reply to a similar proposal in the past kicked off an abusive relationship, giving birth to the fear of intimacy.<\/p>\n

The fear of intimacy can also stem from several other causes, including certain childhood experiences such as a history of abuse or neglect, but many other experiences and factors may contribute to this fear. In other words, fears of abandonment, pain and loss are at the heart of the fear of intimacy for many people.<\/p>\n

Final words<\/h3>\n

According to verywellmind.com<\/a>, people with the fear of intimacy experience this fear do not usually wish to avoid intimacy, and may even long for closeness, but frequently push others away or even sabotage relationships.<\/p>\n

So, if you write your y\u2019s like this and you have the fear of intimacy, open it up a bit using a suitable graphotherapy<\/a> to let others into your world. You\u2019ll feel more relaxed and less uptight.<\/p>\n

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