Do your fears sometimes make you a better person?

I have always believed ‘fear’ has been dealt a bad hand by human beings. It’s considered untouchable. All the time. Take this, for example:

Don’t let fear stop you from trying new things. Believe in yourself. Do what you love.”

It’s a well-meaning advice, no doubt. But what’s happening here? ‘Fear’ is being dissed. As if it were a sworn enemy. The advice could have been conveyed even without dragging ‘fear’ into it, because it’s courage that helps you overcome obstacles. You don’t win any battle or achieve any goals by waging a war on fear.

Frankly, it’s rare to find someone who does not snub fear. We all vilify it or look down upon it. Why? Because we fear the fear itself. Because it restricts us. Because it invariably constructs insurmountable boundaries around the things we desire. We believe fear creates hindrances day in and day out for a living. Or at least that’s what we think fear does, don’t we?

Clearly, fear is an anathema to us. It must be avoided at all cost. Very few people around us understand fear. Probably only the greats do. One such was the person who penned the lines below:

Fair seed-time had my soul, and I grew up
Fostered alike by beauty and by fear

They’re by famous English Romantic poet William Wordsworth. I came across them as a college student about a decade-and-a-half ago. I don’t have a very good memory, but these two lines somehow managed to stick. The reason: for the first time, I had heard someone take a different view of Mr Fear. The poet had looked at Mr Fear with kindness in his eyes.

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In the two lines, Wordsworth suggests that the fear always helps you stay on course; it does not let you deviate; it shapes you and nurtures you. For Wordsworth, fear is a friend, a guide, and a teacher. As a literary scholar has rightly explained in his analysis:

Wordsworth’s boyhood is dominated by beauty and fear of nature. While snaring birds or robbing nests, the boy experiences exultation as well as terror.”

I might sound like a devil’s advocate, arguing on behalf of Fear. Maybe I am. But not in totality. I don’t, for one, believe that fear, especially the irrational ones, should be allowed to influence our decisions. But sometimes, we should listen to our fears, particularly the ones that carry the voice of reason. In short, all fears are not good. But not all are bad either.

Now, imagine a world where there is no fear. Can you believe what all a human being will do if he acts fearlessly all the time? We may not realise it in our day-to-day life, but it’s fear that makes us apply the brakes while driving; stops us from executing those heinous thoughts about someone; prevents one from getting into extra-marital situations; helps us stay a good person; ensures we stay disciplined and courteous… In fact, I could go to the extent of saying that fear plays a salient role in keeping us human.

By now you must be wondering what’s the connection with handwriting analysis. After all, this website is about is about handwriting analysis and it will be waste of your time if I am unable to establish a connection between all this gyan and graphology. So, here it is:

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It’s untenable to deny that many times in our lives, we all have been guided by a strange fear of looking bad. We stick to the right path because we don’t want others to think of us in a wrong way. That’s also a kind of fear, which stops us from doing things that are morally inappropriate. This is not a debilitating fear; it’s rather benign. Perhaps the kind Wordsworth talks about.

In handwriting analysis, this fear, or someone’s capacity to feel this fear, is see in the upper zone of the handwriting.

A well-developed but average-sized upper zone (in the image below) in handwriting, especially in the lower case d and t, indicates that the writer has a heightened sense of pride and feeling of self-respect, which he won’t want to sully willingly. The pride makes personal dignity a matter of utmost importance for the writer. In other words, he fears that if he acts in a wrong or inappropriate way, the self-image he has created will be destroyed. For many people, this fear acts as a deterrent and prevents them for executing ideas that could show them in a bad light. (Please note a highly irregular baseline in handwriting may neutralise this trait)

Average-sized Upper Zone

If the stems of letters d and t are well-developed, it indicates that the writer is filled with a compulsive need to do the right thing. His behaviour is controlled to a large extent by a moderate fear of what people will say about him.

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You will be surprised to know this single personality trait acts as a regulator even if there are certain negative traits in the handwriting. For example, if the writer’s handwriting shows he is very impulsive (shown by a far right slant), but his d’s and t’s are tall, it indicates that the writer has found a way to control his impulses.

Extra-tall Upper Zone

However, you should always learn to distinguish between a well-developed upper zone and an extra-tall upper zone. Graphologist Sheila Lowe says:

An extra-tall upper zone is like someone standing proud, as if he has just achieved some wonderful goal. If the upper-zone height is too tall in proportion to the other zones, the writer may be an intellectual dilettante who lacks the ability to manifest his ideas…”

On the other hand, a short upper zone points to the writer’s desire to avoid getting into the intellectual space or discussions. About people who write with a short upper zone, Lowe adds:

A short upper zone indicates a writer who generally doesn’t have strong religious or spiritual beliefs, and who isn’t interested in questioning his values. More materialistic than intellectual…”

In order to determine the correct height of the upper zone, you will be required to see it in relation to the rest of the handwriting, especially the height of the middle-zone letters. To know more about middle and upper zones and many other things about handwriting analysis, click here.