Though I don’t like myself, I’m madly in love with you

I was never good at maths. Geometry inspired me to renounce the world and go to the woods in search of God, while Algebra always made me want to run like a zany zebra. But that hardly stops me from making a point using arithmetical examples. Here is one:

Suppose you want $10 from me to buy an underwear. I readily agree to borrow you $10. Now, calculate and find out how much money can I give you when I have none in my pocket?

Ah! I know it was easy. I just presented it in a complicated way. So, those who got the answer right and have their underwears on, can read on. (Stop your mind from going down to cross-check and concentrate here.)

You very well know the point I tried to make: You cannot give away something you do not possess. And if someone expects to get it from you, he or she will be quite disappointed. Similarly, you cannot like someone if you don’t like yourself. In other words, if your self-worth in your eyes is less, you can’t associate much value with others in any relationships.

In handwriting, a low self-image is revealed by the size of capital letters and personal pronoun I, signature and most importantly by a low t-bar (see circled letter in the picture). The low t-bar reveals the writer doesn’t have a great amount of ego strength about himself. Such a writer hardly finds good qualities in himself and is always self-critical, which degrades one’s sense of personal value.

Normally, such a person has no problem being treated as a doormat. You abuse them and they will lick your feet. It may appear insane and irrational, but we do know people who behave that way, don’t we? Why would someone do that?

American graphologist Bart Baggett says, “Someone with low self-respect idolizes you for having so many things that she doesn’t possess. In the process of valuing you, she will often go out of her way to do things to make you like her. She is sweet because she wants you to approve of her. When her internal references state that she is not approved of, she looks elsewhere to find approval.”

The efforts made by an individual to gain acceptance through sweetness are often mistaken as love and affection. But nothing could be farther from the truth. It’s just a façade. It’s just a attempt to please someone in order to feel approved and accepted. But as soon as you forget to approve, the person “reacts like a rabid dog trapped in a corner. She must fight her way out. This fight usually includes biting you”.

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