Handwriting tells you why people lie and how you can know if someone is lying

How do you deal with those who have lying loops?

Now that you’ve learned all about lying loops in the letter ‘O’, you may find that many people, including some of your close friends and relatives, have those loops in their handwriting. So, what do you do? You snap all ties with them? Or never believe anything they say? Well, neither of the responses is feasible or practicable because till a lie is proven, it’s not one. And if you suspect every thing a person says, you will turn yourself into a sceptical scoundrel. So, how do you handle this?

Honestly, even I don’t know. But I will tell you a story — a true story. As a handwriting analyst, I met a girl about four years ago. Her handwriting revealed she had been abused and ill-treated by people very close to her. She was betrayed several times. Gradually, she saw a friend in me and got close to me. Now, she did not want to lose me and wanted my attention. But because she was an abused person who was made to feel worthless and good for nothing all her life, she was not sure whether I will give her attention, as she did not consider herself worthy. She thought I would also ill-treat her the way others did. So, the only way she could continue getting my attention was by magnifying her misery before me. She knew I would be sympathetic. She was right. I did become soft towards her then nothing stopped her from mistaking my sympathy for attention. She would frequently call me up and say how badly she was mistreated at home. I would feel bad about that and would listen to her and call her back sometimes to make her feel good.

One evening, I got a call from her cellphone. She told me she could not take any more harassment and therefore she had left her home and had now shifted to a friend’s place, where she was in an awful condition. I listened to her helplessly, hoping I could do something about her situation. I was telling her something and was trying to console and comfort her and then… snap… all of a sudden, she disconnected the phone. But I had heard a sound in the background and I had recognised it unmistakably: it was the unique ring tone of her home landline phone.

She was at home that evening. She did not go anywhere. But she wanted my attention. So, she lied to me. She was manipulating the situation to hold my attention. Did she have these loops? Yes. But there were a few other things in her handwriting, which supported lying loops. It was a big lower zone — which reflects a tendency to exaggerate.

You might want to know what I did after that. Well, not immediately but soon I snapped all my ties with her. I am not in touch with her any more. She was not vile or treacherous when she told me that lie. She was really an ill-treated woman who needed some respect. She got it from me. So, naturally she did not want to let me go. It’s straight and simple. But I left because I had to go. I knew I would not want be in a situation like that where personally I would have been required to deal with her immense insecurities. Anyway, the point I am trying to make is that there is little sense in being judgmental about her or anyone else who has such a loop in their handwriting. It’s just a defence mechanism, as Bart says. In the fight for survival and respect, they lie and manipulate to turn things in their favour. If you find your friends have these loops and you don’t like to be with them, just make an informed decision to protect your interests and be careful. That’s probably the easiest way to deal with them.

Do you have these loops?

If you are the one who has these loops in the handwriting, try to get rid of them. Many handwriting analysts do not recommend removal of these loops because it is part of an individual’s survival strategy. But I strongly recommend you take it out because most of the time, one’s lies, subsequent revelations and then the feeling of betrayal ruthlessly injures their emotional health. But make sure that the fears that caused those loops are also shown the doors. If they don’t, loops will continue to reappear.

For example, if you incessantly feel you are going to lose, you will be tempted to lie in order to ensure you taste victory by hook or by crook. Therefore, before you take the lying loops out of your handwriting, make sure the fears are liquidated first.

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