About two years ago, my friend in Calcutta, Sujay, asked me to take his fiancee, Radhika, for shopping as she wanted to buy a few clothes. I couldn’t say no to him because he was too busy with his editorial assignment and she was new to the city.
I took her to a famous outlet in Park Street. She picked up a beautiful dress and asked me: “You think Sujay will like this?”
Flashing a confused smile, I said, “He might, it looks good…”
“If he doesn’t?” she shot back.
“So what? If you like it, you can still wear it. Right?” I said.
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“Umm… may be…,” she said as we walked up to the billing counter. Radhika said she didn’t wear some of her “favourite and inexpensive” dresses because Sujay and her other friends told her she didn’t look good in them. “Some of them were my parents’ gifts.”
“But why don’t you wear them?”
Radhika didn’t answer and bent to sign on her credit card charge slip. I looked at her signature (pic A) and I got my answer: she bothered too much about what others thought of her looks. The problem lay in the loop of her small case ‘d’.
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People with loops in their d’s are extremely sensitive to personal criticism. The bigger the loop, the greater the sensitivity and therefore deeper the hurt.
If I had wide loops in my handwriting and my friend passed a negative comment on my t-shirt, I’d tell myself in private: “Why did she say that? What does she think of herself? She has no taste, her own dressing sense is awful! Why doesn’t she mind her own business? I’ll tell her off the next time she says anything to me about my dress…”
I don’t know if I’d be able to rebuff my friend, but with a loop like that in the letter, I’d definitely stop wearing the apparel.
In relationships, this loop causes fierce quarrels. If you frequently hear your partners scream, “Why did you do that? Why did you say that? You hurt me so much…”, 80 per cent chances are they will have loopy d’s, reflecting exaggerated sensitivity. Handling such people is an uphill task because once they think they’ve been criticised and betrayed, they get defensive and offensive.
The solution is to retrace the d’s (pic B) as part of a regimental graphotherapeutic exercise. It will reduce your sensitivity and empower you to take personal criticism with a pinch of salt and become thick-skinned.
The article by me first appeared in Mumbai Mirror
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