Quit This Fight Like a Coward if You Want to Defeat Depression


If you wallow a great deal in despair without doing anything to move yourself from there, the chain of experiences it will trigger is unlikely to be to your liking.

Misfortune, they say, never comes alone. This adage has stood the test of time because it holds a grain of truth that many of us have experienced in our lives. It’s an uncanny feeling that when one unfortunate event befalls us, it often seems to open the floodgates for a series of additional misfortunes to follow.

Have you ever wondered how someone could get their heart broken, and then could get sick, and then lose all the money, and also wreck their car — all in the same week?

And when you ask that person what’s going on, she might say, “I’m having a bad week. That’s all.”

Although this sounds like the most plausible explanation in a world where things are not in our control, there’s one critical piece missing from it: the role your thoughts play in bringing you closer to your experiences.

Unless you’re consciously aware of the real power of your thoughts, it won’t be clear to you that if you’re thinking or feeling negatively right now, it is setting into motion what is going to look like a series of musty experiences.

In other words, if you spend an inordinate amount of time in a place of despair without doing anything to move yourself away from there, the chain of experiences it will trigger is unlikely to be to your liking. That’s the harsh truth, and the Law of Attraction* as well.

*The core principle of the Law of Attraction is that like attracts like, meaning that positive or negative thoughts and emotions can attract corresponding positive or negative experiences into a person’s life.

Who spends time in despair?

The correct answer is: everyone.

Feeling sad or disappointed once in a while is perfectly natural. But most get up, dust themselves and move on. The problem arises when a certain kind of emptiness overtakes your life and refuses to go away, throwing you into a whirlpool of sad emotions. It feels like a dark, bottomless well that keeps drowning you deeper.

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If you’re thinking or feeling negatively right now, it is setting into motion what is going to look like a series of bad experiences.

That sure explains why unwanted and unpleasant events flood the experience of people suffering from depression. It’s like a loop from which they cannot get out. They keep feeling sad and as a result, keep attracting sad things. Depression keeps you in a cycle of unpleasant events because under its influence, you are unable to offer positive thoughts.

Graphology and Depression

Plainly speaking, depression, a complex and debilitating mental health condition, is a mood disorder that causes a persistent feeling of sadness and loss of interest. Since depression affects how you feel, it is important to catch it in its initial stages. There are many ways to do understand if what you are suffering from is depression, there’s a lesser-known tool that can offer insights into an individual’s mental state: graphology, the analysis of handwriting. All you need to do is pay attention to the following things:

  1. Pressure: People experiencing depression often apply more pressure when they write, resulting in darker, thicker strokes. Conversely, those with lighter, more delicate writing may be dealing with feelings of sadness.
  2. Slant: An excessively left-leaning slant in handwriting might suggest a withdrawn, introverted personality, which can be associated with depression. Conversely, an overly right-leaning slant could indicate a highly emotional, possibly anxious disposition.
  3. Spacing: Depression can lead to feelings of isolation and detachment. Handwriting with irregular spacing, where some words are crowded while others are widely spaced, may reflect these emotional fluctuations.
  4. Size: Extremely small handwriting can be a sign of social withdrawal and introspection, common features of depression. On the other hand, overly large handwriting may indicate a desire for attention or an attempt to compensate for feelings of inadequacy.
  5. Changes in handwriting: Depression can cause a person’s handwriting to change over time. For instance, a previously neat and legible script might become messy and illegible as a person’s mental state deteriorates.
  6. Falling baseline: One of the most powerful indicators of unhappiness in handwriting is a falling baseline as seen in the picture below.
Descending baseline in handwriting indicates sadness, or depression, in the writer's life.

Descending baseline in handwriting indicates sadness, or depression, in the writer’s life.

Negative surprises

If you’re receiving too many negative surprises in your life, it’s not mere coincidence. It’s likely you are offering negative thoughts about most things, which is a common symptom among people suffering from depression. They naturally embrace negative thoughts and conclusively believe that things cannot go right for them. As a result, they keep getting proven right.

People who feel depressed often have their brains filled to capacity with bid, loud, heavy, vivid images of the bad times and only thin, gray wafters for the good times.

In case you are in such a situation, seek help soon. And while you do that, it will be important to keep these five things in mind:

  1. Do not beat the drum of what is going wrong in your life. People who make a career out of their problems seldom get out of them.
  2. Think about what you do want. Don’t pay attention to what you don’t want.
  3. Talk about what you do want. Don’t talk about what you don’t want.
  4. Tell everyone about what you do want. Tell no one about what you don’t want.
  5. Meditate every day.

When you offer positive thoughts or just talk about positive things, you’re in the process of breaking the chain of negative experiences, which eventually will help you feel better and get out of a never-ending loop of negative thoughts.

Final words

Depression, in my view, is nothing but the outcome of a fierce mental battle between you and your current situation. Most people do not realise that their extreme and obsessive unhappiness with where they currently are is the root cause of most of their mental problems. Stay in this fight long enough and depression will engulf you in totality. Therefore, you need to run away from this fight, like a lowly coward.

Fact is, we all want to be in a better situation and have more resources at our disposal, and we all want to move towards that step by step.

There’s nothing wrong with that. But while embarking on this journey towards happiness and a better tomorrow, there is no point in despising where you currently stand.

The journey towards a happier tomorrow can only start from where you are because your starting point is uniquely yours. You cannot take someone else’s starting point, right? You have to consciously start offering positive thoughts about a happier future and constantly redirect your attention to things that would make you happy, rather than marinate in a feeling of despair over things not going right.

In other words, you have to make peace with where you are, no matter how unpleasant it is. Then and only then can you move away from it. It sounds paradoxical, but it’s true.

The sooner you accept it, the better it is for your happiness. The longer you take take to embrace it, the more continuous the flow of negative surprises will be. You will continue getting your heart broken, and falling sick, and then losing all the money, and also wrecking your car — all in the same week. It’s your choice, after all.

Anthony Robbins, an American author, coach and speaker, says in his book, Unlimited Power:

After all, frustration, depression and ecstasy aren’t things. They are processes created by specific mental images, sounds, and physical actions that you consciously and unconsciously control.”

Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.