How to Use Graphotherapy to Make Peace with Your Parents

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In 2006, on my way to work by local train in Mumbai, almost every day I used to see two men board my compartment at a particular station. Their height, looks and my intuitions told me they were father and son.

I noticed that after getting into the compartment, they would invariably move in two different directions of the coach to sit.

Even when there was an empty seat next to the father, the 24-something son made it a point to sit away from him, preferably in another section.

In my several months of commute on the route, I never heard or saw them talking to each other.

After a few stations, they used to quietly get off and walk away.

I don’t know whether the two chose to be distant because one couldn’t stand the body odour of the other, but their behaviour matched that of many a father and son who don’t get along well, disagree more often than not, and get into fierce altercations.

For many people, the differences with parents exist only at verbal level, but some get violent with them and go to the extent of torturing them mentally and physically without any remorse. Let’s call them scoundrels and abandon them right here.

Now, returning to fights with parents. Many of you may recollect how you snubbed your parents recently while trying to prove that you are right.

But in the next few minutes, you regret being harsh and callous with them. Very much like my friend who once told me:

“Vishwas, I feel very bad after I snub my parents. I realise I shouldn’t have snapped at them. They’re old and they give me that helpless look when I say hurtful things. But they say something and then I can’t help being spiteful…”

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In handwriting analysis, a writer’s relations with parents are seen in the personal pronoun I (PPI).

People, who write PPIs as listed in pic A (there are several more varieties), feel resentful against their parents. Usually, some bad experiences in childhood cause a subconscious bitterness against parents.

How to Use Graphotherapy to Make Peace with Your Parents 3The reasons behind parental angst may be valid.

Nonetheless, it’s better to forget the past to smoothen your present. And to those who are willing to improve their relations with parents, graphotherapy offers a few solutions. You just have to change a few things in your handwriting.

The easiest one is: print your PPI (pic B). It’ll diminish the rancour and bitterness you have been harbouring against them.

So, hurry up! You never know when they’re gone for good and then maybe you’ll regret you didn’t have the last chance to say that one word to them: sorry.

(This article first appeared in Mumbai Mirror.)

Disclaimer: One element of handwriting may be analysed at a time, but always look at the entire handwriting sample before arriving at any conclusion.